Thursday, December 26, 2024

Final Day Away

 I was up at 7:30 and headed to the club. I got an 8-mile ride and weight lifting in before heading back for breakfast and play. Since the weather was better, there was much outdoor time. The kids were exhausted and took a long nap as we enjoyed football.   It was a ham and beans early dinner when they woke, followed by more play and packing.




Some will be sad as we prepare to close this trip and head home tomorrow. Leslie appreciated the time but started crying at the thought of us leaving. It will be nice to get home. However, this trip was less pleasing than the ones where I roamed at will and had no responsibility or expectations.


Carry on my friends, carry on!

Christmas 2024

Shelley and I left early Sunday, December 22, and visited her father in Lincoln. The drive was windy, yet there were no issues with snow, ice, or rain. We arrived, checked into Staybridge Suites hotel at 2:00 PM, and unloaded before heading to Jon's. We arrived at Jon's by 3:00 PM, and Shelley and he went on a reminiscing drive. I went to Planet Fitness to work out.

At 5:00, we were back, opened gifts, and set up his frame before heading to the dining room for dinner. I don't know the dinner cost, but the food was marginal. Shelley and I had fried chicken, and finding the meat under the breading was hard.

Later, Shelley, Helen, and Jon sang some Christmas carols. I recorded their effort; I didn’t sing! It was late, and we were tired after a long day, with a long drive ahead tomorrow, so we returned to the hotel and called it a night.

On Monday the 23rd, we were up about 5:00 AM and packed. We planned breakfast with Jon before heading to Arkansas. The drive to Arkansas was simple, but it took longer than I had anticipated. We arrived in Fayetteville at 4:30 PM and proceeded to Tim's Pizza to pick up pizza for dinner.  

The kids were so excited to see Grammy. They jumped into the car and onto Grammy's lap before we reached the driveway. It started to rain, so we had to stay indoors with Tickle Monster and other activities. During the drive, we again tried to get to bed early and have a good night's sleep.

The next two days were filled with playing, opening more gifts than we could have imagined, and, of course, eating. Taylor made brisket that was smoked to absolute perfection! It was so enjoyable. Below are some holiday images.



On Christmas Eve, I sent serious emails to Jordan and Chris wishing them a Merry Christmas. For some reason, having no relationship with Chris bothered me, maybe because Taylor and Leslie were not aware of him more than he existed, and there was a conversation at the dinner table about Jacob. 

I decided to share the most profound song I ever wrote, in my opinion, with Chris.  I wrote it in 2006.  I believed he would read it and think it was also his life.  The song, "What's the matter with me?" is as follows.
Ask what's the matter
I have had a hard life
I’m placing the Don't Disturb sign on my door
I’ve lost my place in line again
Losing my life
I’ve never seem to want to smile anymore

I take the long way
Trying to find my soul
Riding a freight train
Off its track
And as my life continues without a single goal
Life seems gone, and I will never get it back

Here I am counting sheep once again
What's the point of trying to dream anymore
My heart is pounding hard with pain 
Drowning in the ocean, I can’t find the shore

I know my emotions 
Move at full speed
Moving in the wrong direction in this time of need
I take a few more bruises
And there will be many more
My life is lost as I head out the door 

I hide the truth
I am not happy
Wasted energy censoring my tears
Act like a crusader
Always on the right track
But I’m a lost man with knives in my back

I can’t take a moment
It is plain to see
Life races faster than it should be
All that matters
Is showing my happy lies
Clouded to hide my tear-filled eyes

Will someone please
Please tell me?
Is there hope of love and happiness for me
I can only wonder
How to set me free

I can’t find the answer
What's the matter with me
I can only wonder how to set me free
I can’t find the answer

What's the matter with me


It will be enjoyable as we prepare to close this trip and head home tomorrow. Leslie appreciated the time, as she started crying at the thought of us leaving. It will be nice to get home. However, this trip was less pleasing than the ones where I roamed at will and had no responsibility or expectations.

Carry on my friends, carry on!

Wednesday, December 25, 2024

GIFTS GALORE

I drifted off to sleep around 1:15 a.m. and woke up bright and early at 5:15 a.m.! It was a bit of a struggle to catch some Z’s because the front lights were on, including that wall-washing light that practically blinded me from my window. I’m guessing they left them on for Christmas since they were off on Monday night. Anyway, at 6:00 a.m., I hopped in the shower and got ready for the day ahead!

The kids were up and ready to dive into the incredible array of Santa gifts before we even had breakfast! Leslie whipped up an excellent egg scramble, delicious monkey bread, and a bunch of fruit. After breakfast, we spent the next three hours opening Christmas gifts and assembling the kids’ toys that required some assembly.

After dinner, Christmas carols were sung using the Santa face masks they had created.  The family has a solid tone, and until I join, it is pretty good!




The rest of the night was spent resting and recuperating. At 8:30 p.m., everyone but me watched a Christmas movie. I was so tired that I called it a night.


Carry on my friends, carry on!

Tuesday, December 24, 2024

Christmas Eve

I jolted awake at 5:30 a.m., and bam! A rainstorm was already in full swing. I tiptoed out to Planet Fitness to get my workout in before the storm really hit. When I got back around 8:45, Taylor was off to a local farm to grab some raw milk and bagels. And guess what? The farmer’s 14-year-old son was whipping up bagels using raw farm milk and selling them right there with the milk! 

The farm was quite a sight, with its rustic charm and a bit of wear and tear, but it somehow made my family’s farm feel a bit more put-together. The farm person we met was a rugged middle-aged man who handled the sale. Taylor wished her a Merry Christmas, and she replied, “Farmers don’t celebrate Christmas; there’s just too much work to do.” It was a bit sad, but I completely understood.

Once we returned, we had breakfast and spent quality time with the children until it was time for them to nap at 2:00 p.m. We then took the time to prepare for the evening meal and get ready for Santa. Taylor smoked a brisket in his barrel smoker while Leslie made Chicken Fettuccini Alfredo. The rain was constant, so outdoor activities were limited. However, we did get a chance to test the drone.

Once the kids arose, we decorated a gingerbread house, had dinner, and prepared the living room for Santa. It was so cute to see how charming Leighton was about Santa! 

TAYLOR'S  EFFORT

LEIGHTON'S EFFORT

SAWYER'S EFFORT

LONDELL'S EFFORT

SHELLEY'S EFFORT

DEACON'S EFFORT

LESLIE'S EFFORT

I was really wired and unable to sleep at all. It was after midnight before I felt I could sleep. Tomorrow might be a long day!


Carry on my friends, carry on!

Monday, December 23, 2024

Arkansas arrival

We were awake at 4:00 a.m., and both had trouble sleeping. We started packing at 6:00 a.m., intending to get to Jon’s by 7:45 a.m. for breakfast. We decided to eat the complimentary breakfast at Staybridge Suites, which offered a nice array of food.

We were all packed and leaving by 7:35 a.m. When we got to Jon’s, his home health aide was still helping him. His aide has a daughter who received the Jon Peterson scholarship. Small world. It was about 8:30 a.m. when we arrived in the dining room. We had a good conversation, and just as we were about to finish eating, a new resident (Judy, who lives in unit 113) asked if she could join us. She had lived there for three days after her husband died two months earlier. After 15 minutes, Shelley and I needed to head out. We walked Jon back to his room and were on the road by 9:15 a.m.


The drive was without any issues. Traffic was light, and there were only a few raindrops on the windshield in Missouri. When we arrived, we stopped at Tim’s Pizza in Fayetteville to get dinner for the group. The GPS sent us through small residential streets for the last two miles. The street network appears convoluted and not easy to comprehend—it must be a nightmare for firefighters or police officers.


We arrived at Leslie’s at about 5:00 p.m. The boys were so glad to see Grammy as they ran into the street and climbed onto her lap. I was happy I was driving so they could greet Grammy! We unpacked, ate dinner, and had an active play session. Deacon gave me a house tour. It has been a long time since I played Tickle Monster with kids. It tired me out!


It was a tiring day, and we both hoped for a solid sleep!


Carry on my friends, carry on!

Sunday, December 22, 2024

Off to Arkansas we go

We thought it would be a fantastic idea to drive to Fayetteville, Arkansas, through Lincoln, Nebraska, for our Christmas trip! We’ll be spending four days with three of Shelley’s grandkids and their parents. The detour to Lincoln, Nebraska, was to spend some quality time with her father, who’s in an independent living facility and isn’t doing so well. So, Shelley is really looking forward to visiting Jon. They have this amazing connection that I’ve never seen before.

We left at 7:10 AM but turned back due to Shelley’s concern about wearing a mask when visiting her father, we turned around. By 7:20 AM, we resumed our journey to Lincoln. The drive was smooth, with minimal traffic and pleasant weather. Upon reaching Des Moines, Iowa, there was no snow, and the temperature exceeded 40 degrees.

We arrived at Lincoln at 1:40 PM and went directly to Staybridge Suites to see if we could get an early check-in. Fortunately, we were able to unload the car before heading to Jon's. Unfortunately, we were both hungry, so a quick stop at Casey's for a pizza slice was required. We arrived at Jon's at 2:45 PM, and after a short discussion, Shelley dropped me off at Planet Fitness for a workout, and she and Jon went on a reminiscing drive.

We returned to Jon's at 4:45 PM and opened gifts. Shelley purchased an Aura Carver picture frame so we could all load images he could view at leisure. Once we finished setting up the frame, we headed to the dining room, where we would have dinner with Jon's girlfriend, Helen.  Shelley and I had a house salad, fried chicken, and Peach Pie. The Chicken was mainly fried in breading.  Shelley said she needed to work hard to find any meat!

After dinner, Helen, Jon, and Shelley belted out Christmas Carols! We left Helen in the assisted living wing and grabbed some ice cream before heading home. Shelley and I made our way back to the cozy spot by 9:00 PM and chilled out before calling it a night!
relaxed before calling it a night!  

Thursday, December 19, 2024

First big snow

Winter has arrived, bringing approximately 8 inches of fluffy snow. My forecast indicates only about 0.6 inches of moisture, which I initially thought was insignificant. However, this morning's snow depth surprised me, prompting the realization that the weather report I consult lists moisture content, meaning the snow-to-moisture ratio can vary from 5:1 to 15:1. There is a tool called the MNI Calculator (click to go to the site) that helps estimate snowfall based on moisture. Nonetheless, with temperatures expected to reach 40 degrees over Christmas, the snow is likely to melt quickly.

Since I am retired, I cleared the snow from the driveway, the hydrant in front of the mailbox, and most of the sidewalk on my side of the block. I have the time, so why not? The temperature is around 25 degrees, making the outdoor air feel refreshing.

Since January 4, I have been cycling on Rouvy every other day since January 4. The eight rides were 131.4 miles with 3,043 feet of climb in 8 hours and 26 minutes. My longest ride was Lake Pukaki in New Zealand, covering 20 miles with a 710-foot climb in 1 hour, 16 minutes, and 41 seconds, averaging a heart rate of 132 BPM. Unlike outdoor riding, where a breeze helps cool the body, I tend to sweat heavily while on Rouvy.

I am exercising today, but I plan to stick to my routine of exercising every other day. As I age, it's easier to burn out or get injured. The best approach is a solid workout. Due to the holiday and travel, I might need to exercise on two consecutive days this week to maintain my schedule.

I don't check my weight regularly, so I avoid stress related to the scale. After a few weeks of riding, I've noticed that I feel better overall. I realize that my sleep quality improves on rest days, but soreness and aches can make it more difficult to fall asleep. Taking pain relief helps me sleep better, but NSAIDs, in particular, tend to upset my stomach significantly.

Carry on my friends, carry on!

Infromation please

 I have heard many stories that make a point. The one below always reminds me how little things can make a huge impact! I hope you enjoy it and that it impacts you as much as it did me!

When I was young, my father had one of the first telephones in our neighborhood. I remember well the polished old case fastened to the wall. The shiny receiver hung on the side of the box. I was too little to reach the telephone, but I listened fascinatedly when my mother talked to it. Then I discovered that somewhere inside the wonderful device lived an amazing person--her name was "Information, Please," and there was nothing she did not know. "Information, Please" could supply anybody's number and the correct time.

My first personal experience with this genie-in-the-bottle came one day while my mother was visiting a neighbor. Amusing myself at the tool bench in the basement, I whacked my finger with a hammer. The pain was terrible, but there didn't seem to be any reason for crying because there was no one home to give sympathy.


I walked around the house, sucking my throbbing finger, finally arriving at the stairway. The telephone! Quickly, I ran for the footstool in the parlor and dragged it to the landing. Climbing up, I unhooked the receiver in the parlor and held it to my ear. "Information, Please," I said into the mouthpiece above my head.


With a click or two, a small, clear voice spoke into my ear, "Information." "I hurt my finger," I wailed into the phone. The tears came readily enough now that I had an audience. "Isn't your mother home?" came the question. "Nobody's home but me." I blubbered. "Are you bleeding?" the voice asked. "No," I replied. "I hit my finger with the hammer, and it hurts." "Can you open your icebox?" she asked.


I said I could. "Then chip off a little piece of ice and hold it to your finger," said the voice. After that, I called "Information, Please" for everything. I asked her for help with my geography, and she told me where Philadelphia was. She helped me with my math. She told me my pet chipmunk, which I had caught in the park just the day before, would eat fruit and nuts.


Then, there was the time Petey, our pet canary, died. I called "Information, Please" and told her the sad story. She listened and said the usual things grown-ups say to soothe a child, but I was inconsolable. I asked her, "Why should birds sing so beautifully and bring joy to all families, only to end up as a heap of feathers on the bottom of a cage?"


She must have sensed my deep concern, for she said quietly, "Paul, always remember that there are other worlds to sing in." Somehow, I felt better.


Another day, I was on the telephone. "Information, Please." "Information," said the now familiar voice. "How do you spell fix?" I asked.


All this took place in a small town in the Pacific Northwest. When I was nine, we moved across the country to Boston. I missed my friend very much. "Information, Please" belonged in that old wooden box back home, and I never thought of trying the tall, shiny new phone on the table in the hall.


As I grew into my teens, the memories of those childhood conversations never really left me. Often, in moments of doubt and perplexity, I would recall the serene sense of security I had then. I appreciated now how patient, understanding, and kind she was to have spent her time on a little boy.


A few years later, on my way west to college, my plane was put down in Seattle. I had about half an hour or so between planes. I spent 15 minutes on the phone with my sister, who lives there now. Then, without thinking what I was doing, I dialed my hometown operator and said, "Information, Please." Miraculously, I heard the small, clear voice I knew so well, "Information." I hadn't planned this but heard myself saying, "Could you please tell me how to spell fix?"


There was a long pause. Then came the soft-spoken answer, "I guess your finger must have healed by now." I laughed. "So it's really still you," I said. "Do you know how much you meant to me during that time?" "I wonder," she said, "if you know how much your calls meant to me? I never had any children, and I used to look forward to your calls." I told her how often I had thought of her over the years, and I asked if I could call her again when I came back to visit my sister.


"Please do," she said. "Just ask for Sally."


Three months later, I was back in Seattle. A different voice answered, "Information." I asked for Sally. "Are you a friend?" she asked. "Yes, a very old friend," I answered.


"I'm sorry to have to tell you this," she said. "Sally has been working part-time the last few years because she was sick. She died five weeks ago."


Before I could hang up, she said, "Wait a minute. Did you say your name was Paul?"


"Yes," I replied. "Well, Sally left a message for you. She wrote it down in case you called. Let me read it to you."


The note said, "Tell him I still say there are other worlds to sing in. He'll know what I mean.”


I thanked her and hung up. I knew what Sally meant.


Never underestimate the impression you may make on others. Whose life have you touched today?


Carry on my friends, carry on!


Sunday, November 24, 2024

Phrases

We older adults occasionally have phrases we use but never understand why.  For example, “for Pete’s sake” is typically used instead of profanity or just a time of complete exasperation.  I always thought it was from my great uncle Peter, who was an overachiever, and people always tried to achieve what he did in a day.  So, I researched this phrase to see where it may have been derived.  I discovered that “Pete” is not my Great Uncle or a person.

So what is “For Pete’s sake”? If I look at each word independently.  Pete is typically a human, usually a male.  According to Merriam-Webster, sake means “an end, a purpose,” “a good, advantage, or enhancement of some entity,” or “personal or social welfare, safety, or benefit.”  So, does it mean “for the benefit of Pete?”


After overthinking the issue, I believe it originated as a less offensive alternative to phrases like "for Christ's sake" or "for God's sake" using a shortened version of St. Peter's name. This correlates with other Pete phrases, such as "for the love of Pete" and "in the name of Pete."


The Oxford English Dictionary cited “for Pete’s sake” in the 1903 Oxford English Dictionary.  Yet it was used in Shakespeare’s Othello. I speculate that the phrase “for peace’s sake” is where it started. I believe the pronunciation of “Pete” and “peace” were similar, misheard, and repeated.  


Now, what about “Heavens to Betsy,” “by George,” or “What in Sam Hill?” predates all of them? So many phrases that will die with my generation.  Now I hear “Rad,” “BAE (before anyone else),” “calp back,” or “OK boomer.”  Makes me think more than I want to about history and change.


Carry on my friends, carry on!

Saturday, November 23, 2024

Tough times

I have experienced PTSD for three decades now, mainly in November. November was the month of my son's accident 30 years ago.  I have never forgiven myself.  He seems to have come to terms and has minimal issues.  In addition, I fear that, each year, something painful will happen.  That is why I was so upset and worried when I could not reach Shelley for five hours during a significant storm on Wednesday.  

For the past two days, I have kept my phone off and avoided extra stress. I've been experiencing stomach pain and black stools, so focusing on stress reduction and self-care seems best. My breathing difficulty isn't improving with QVAR; I only find relief with Pro-Air. While researching congestive heart disease, I found that supplements such as CoQ10, Taurine, and hawthorn extract could potentially be beneficial. I plan to try them to see if there's any improvement. I also learned that NSAIDs can worsen gut health and congestive heart failure, so I will avoid them for a week to observe any changes.

Lulu still awakens between 3:00 and 4:00 AM to use the bathroom. She is very good at indicating when she needs to pee or poop, but I struggle to return to sleep. Before I started babysitting Lulu, my Apple Watch showed I averaged 7 hours and 21 minutes of sleep per week. Last week, that decreased to 5 hours and 35 minutes, which is unhealthy. While Lulu's nighttime waking contributed to the sleep loss, my increased stress levels have also played a significant role in the issue.

I learned Lulu knows some words very well today.  I always knew "breakfast" and "dinner" were words that made him move quickly to the food bowl!  I would take Lulu to the neighbors this morning so their dog, Penny, and Lulu could play.  I said, "Want to go play with Penny?" Lulu shot up like a bolt of lightning and practically ripped my arm off, trying to get to the neighbors.  I know Porter, Shelley's Golden Retriever, was intelligent, but Lulu seems to exceed what I have ever experienced.

Summing up the day, an AM walk with Lulu, a play date for Lulu, football, a walk with Lulu, and then to bed.

Carry on my friends!

Friday, November 22, 2024

Occoneechee Speedway

 Today, I took Lulu to the Occoneechee Speedway. I visited the site in 2022 and thought it would be a good walk, although it was slow, as Lulu needed to sniff most of the way.

The Occoneechee Speedway Trail is approximately 1/3 a mile from the speedway.  The original track was a half-mile horse track built by Julian S. Carr for Occoneechee Farms. It was later expanded and used by NASCAR.  Four miles of trail take you along the banks of the Eno River, where you’ll walk around the only surviving dirt speedway from NASCAR’s inaugural 1949 season. The 1-mile oval Occoneechee/Orange Speedway was active from 1948-68.


Explored along the trail


Sign at trailhead

Concession Stand


Flag Stand


   
Track History

Trail Map

 













RACE CARS ALONG THE TRACK

 Overall, it was another excellent day with a relaxing walk and sightseeing.


Carry on my friends, carry on!

I am 64

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